Woman’s death in Security-Widefield raises domestic violence awareness

SECURITY-WIDEFIELD, Colo. — A woman was shot and killed early in the morning on Wednesday, November 23.

Her husband, 42-year-old Gregory Lorbiecki, is now in custody and faces first degree murder and a slew of other charges.

It comes after he held her hostage in their Security-Widefield home for 5 hours. Unfortunately this isn’t the first time deputies had dealt with this family.

The El Paso County Sheriff’s Office says Lorbiecki was arrested back in March 2016 for domestic violence, not to mention he had other abuse charges prior to that.

With Lorbiecki’s history of domestic violence, the folks at TESSA remind us situations like this are not uncommon.

“Domestic violence is a cycle,” said Becky Treece, Development Director at TESSA. “It’s not something that happens overnight. It’s not something that happens once and goes away. Domestic violence is a pattern of abuse.”

We don’t know the name of Lorbiecki’s 45-year-old wife. Police say they found her inside the house with gunshot wounds after the standoff ended.

Treece said, “It goes from being absolutely romantic and perfect and honeymoon stage to something goes wrong and tensions start to build and then there’s an explosion.”

The couple’s two teenage kids were the ones who called 911; they were able to get out safely.

“The number one indicator of whether or not somebody will in adulthood become either an abuser or a victim of domestic violence is whether or not they’ve grown up in a home with domestic violence,” said Treece.

Treece says if you know someone who is living with domestic abuse, the best thing you can do is just listen to them.

“A lot of times it’s hard to talk about abuse and they are looking for somebody who will just hear them out and then say, ‘It’s not your fault’. Treece said, “It is never the victims fault. It is always the abuser’s fault. Nobody chooses to a victim and it’s not their fault.”

Though we don’t know the circumstances surrounding this couple, tensions can be heightened during the holidays.

The folks at TESSA tell us domestic violence happens regardless of the date. But more so than it being a specific time of year, it’s being in the presence of the abuser for a longer period of time.

“Violence escalates the more an abuser has exposure to their victim so whether that’s over the weekend or an evening because that person works a daytime job or if it’s a vacation and there’s solitude and exposure,” said Treece.

Even though it’s the Thanksgiving holiday, someone is always by the phone at TESSA’s 24-hour crisis line at 719-633-3819.

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